11 comments on “YOUR PDA QUESTIONS ANSWERED (part 5)

  1. Hi there
    Wow, you sound like me, I’m not the only weirdo on the block!!!!!
    I have struggled all my life , I’m now 48 !
    My gp has been treating me for anxiety and depression forever but I knew it was something else , I always suspected bi polar but after born naughty I have realised I have PDA!!! Life becomes extremely overwhelming at times and I have to shut the door , turn off phones and hide until I feel in control again! I also now understand why my mum was such a bad mother, I believe she also has PDA, she is 70!
    Thank you so much for putting yourself out there
    Do you take any medication?
    Is there any medication ? I know I shouldn’t rely on pills but when it’s bad I really don’t want to be here, I would love that feeling to stop
    I have an appointment with my mental health team tomorrow, I referred myself for depression but now feel I can discuss this with straight away!!
    I feel quite liberated
    My parents and siblings have a view if me being aggressive, nasty, weird and I’m not like that but that’s obviously what they remember, wow
    Thank you again and I will continue to follow you for encouragement and support

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    • I’m pleased that you’ve found my blog and you have got some of the answers that you’ve been seeking. The “lightbulb” moment can be so overwhelming but also liberating. Please let me know how you get on with your doctors. You can email me via the “contact me” section of this blog. 😊

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    • I forgot to answer your questions regarding medication! Sorry. I’ve never taken any meds specifically for anxiety but I do know that many with PDA have had some good results from meds such a Prozac. It’s certainly not a ‘cure’ for the anxiety that PDA causes but it can take the edge off of things. The same can also be said for many of the anti-depressants out there. I really think that this is something that you should talk to your doctor about and it really is a personal thing to medicate or not. It works for some and doesn’t work for others but I think it’s certainly something worth trying. The only meds I’m on are Ritalin and Largactil.

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      • Hi Julia Thanks so much for your honesty! I have been on Prozac forever, works most of the time but I have to up it when I have an episode!! I seem to go a couple if years being ‘not too had’ then plummet I started a charitable organisation lady year TADS to work with anyone with anxiety, depression and stress, I work with young people but as a whole we cover anyone! Just waiting now for news from big lottery about 5 years funding, we are so excited and learning new things everyday!! Again, thanks so much, will let you know how today goes, it’s just the initial assessment stage Karen xx

        Me xxxxx

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      • Hi there They have mhat have told me to go back to gp to request referral for assessment of PDA Thanks so much, I have been very open today and spoken more about my feelings than ever because u gave me the confidence to know that I’m not a horrible wicked person, I’m living with PDA!!!! Karen Xxx

        Me xxxxx

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  3. HI Julia, thanks for all these answers. I can relate to being quite the attention-seeker. However, I have a question on this. Is it common in PDA to feel that something needs to be visible or tangible in order for it to be real? Like, I never played sick because I felt I was only sick if I had a fever. Similarly, I for one do self-harm to show people (and myself!) that I’m in distress. It’s not like I self-harm for the attention per se, but find it hard to connect to things that aren’t tangible like emotional well-being. I know this may be more common in general ASD but I am curious if it’s common or possible with PDA too.

    Btw, I can toally relate to your issues with frinedships. I’d easily become attached to people and be way too open in what I’d tell them and really push their limits. ON this, I may’ve mised it but were/are you also too open to people you barely knew (not for the purpose of support like in a group on Facebook). Like, I was talking about my psych problems to my now husband when we’d barely gotten to know each other.

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    • Hi. Thanks for your comments. 😊 To answer your questions for me it’s not like that but I do know of some people with PDA who are more “Aspergers” in the their way of thinking, ie they have to see it to believe it etc and are extremely literal in their thinking. I’ve never threatened self-harm for attention. I guess it’s just a case that we are all individuals with different problems. Yes, I’m far to open when meeting people for the first time. This can overwhelm them or give them the ammunition needed to hurt me. I’m slowly learning that people don’t need to know everything right from the start but it’s not something that comes naturally to me. Practise makes perfect I guess! Lol.

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  4. This Q&A post has been very helpful for me in clarifying what I thought I already understood pretty well about my son. Also, your last question and answer, about holding grudges, not only does my son do that in a major way, but I have come to realise over time, and through living with my son’s condition, that I also do this, and I also always had trouble making/keeping friends, and it’s made me wonder whether I have PDA too, but to a lesser extent perhaps. I was bullied and assaulted at school, have been in abusive relationships (I was the one being abused), am a terrible judge of character when it comes to men, have constantly sought approval and affection (and generally in the wrong places!), also believe greatly in freedom of speech and will not be told what to do by people supposedly in authority and let them know if I don’t agree with their theories and practices (including past bosses when I was out at work – which led to me getting the sack!). Is it possible that I have PDA or something similar? Thank you for this blog, it’s fab.

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    • Hello Julie. Thank you so much for your nice comments. I really do appreciate them. 😊 To kind of answer you question: it’s possible that you are on the spectrum somewhere as clear genetic links have been shown with ASD in general. Without knowing more about you it’s hard to say for sure but if you’re concerned then perhaps you could speak to your doctor. X

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